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They believe there are few good candidates out there, and if they lose this person…they will be crushed! They ask a lot of prying questions, “What did you do last night? ” They stay as close as possible under the assumption that being nearby can prevent their prize from escaping. For the less subtle set there’s the direct question, “What do you think of my jeans? Clearly, it is possible to want too much from a date or a mate.Of course, nothing could be further from the truth. Downshifting from some overblown list of traits and accomplishments is a wise decision.

Desperate daters are scared that they are going to be dumped. “I know I usually go to Las Vegas with my friends for March Madness but I just want to be with you.” It can be a lot of pressure being the center of someone’s universe, and you start to wonder about key traits – like loyalty and dependability – that can have a big impact on whether you choose to pursue a long term relationship someone. Books have been written on the topic of “settling.” What is settling? And a quick perusal of the e Harmony Advice community shows volumes of thought and debate on the topic.

You tell everyone, including him, that you’re a couple.

You’ve only been dating a few weeks, but you’re already telling friends and family (HIS and yours) that you’re a couple. No man (even the nice guys) like being dragged into a relationship before feeling ready or sure that's what he wants.

It’s not uncommon for a 5-year-old to climb into the car for a long trip and ask the driver 15 minutes later, “Are we there yet? ” There are many grown men and women who act the same way with their romantic relationships. They are so desperate to feel good about themselves that they become masters of creating compliments out of thin air. These traits become the short list of what you MUST HAVE from a partner to be with them.

These relationship conversations (we like the term “State of the Union” conversations) can come over and over as the desperate partner seeks for some handle they can use to sooth their fear of being abandoned. The desperate dater is too driven by fear to pay attention to this inner voice.

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