You’re going to get plenty of emotional complications from Even people who have their lives very well pulled together are going to give you lots of opportunities to practice patience and understanding.
There’s no point in starting out with someone who isn’t even trying.
Women with issues are the ones who choose these guys.
Women who have their act together simply don’t have the patience.
The difference is that they’re not fetishizing their own misery or asking you to embrace it.
And that’s a benefit to you, because the only thing you can guarantee yourself about that kind of hair-pulling drama is that if you cuddle up next to it, it’ll get on you.
The ranks of the healthy and rational include plenty of guys who have been in rehab, or been divorced, or seen their parents’ marriages end horribly, or had their own dreams thwarted in some ugly way—all the things that creeps are fond of waving around as explanations for why they lie or cheat on you or generally continue to be creeps.
The difference is that the healthy and rational people have at least the process of digesting all of that stuff and placing it in some sort of perspective so that it doesn’t have to become your problem.
One day she’ll learn to be more emotionally available and loving.” Tolerance for female ambivalence is not a stereotypically male attribute.There’s more of that clutter, so there’s more going on, and there’s more to sink your teeth into, and there’s maybe even more emotional to such a person.Let me tell you something about the guys I know who are emotionally mature.The fundamental mistake we make when we're attracted to someone who's very obviously not good for us is thinking that we'll end up changing them. Adults rarely ever change for anyone, if at all, and thinking that you're the exception to this rule is just setting yourself up for disappointment.Maya Angelou is the queen because she said, "When people show you who they are, believe them." Don't delude yourself into thinking that he's exaggerating his emotional unavailability or he's joking when he says that he always leaves broken hearts in his wake. They notice that you're unhappy, you're quiet, that he's not treating you right. Listen to her when she says that she doesn't think he's right for you. Even if it means listening to 'I told you so.' The thing about assholes is that they will not stop feeding off you.