Dating going slowly
I know your hormones are going 150 miles per hour, your heart is pumping 100 beats per minute and your mind is thinking about that person every five minutes, but allow me to be your yield sign and tell you to slow down.Sometimes when dating, we let our hormones drive the car that our minds should be driving. Moving too fast can cause us to end up in unhealthy relationships with weak foundations. You might spot someone behind the counter of your local café, get butterflies every time they ask your order over the loud steaming, and slowly, but surely, you’ll work in that witty banter.Or, you can use Tinder and connect with a quick swipe.What do you think are some reasons people move so fast in relationships?Speed is of the essence in our modern age of fast-swipe online dating.Unlike Tinder, Bumble, and basically every other dating app out there, the app won't just show you photos of your match.You have to earn that privilege by talking to them.
Here’s why it’s different: instead of photos front and centre, to pick and choose your beau based on fullness of beard, say, the app won’t disclose what your potential suitor looks like until you’ve earned the right… The design of the app is the kicker: each profile photo is covered by what looks like a patterned patchwork and every “encounter” you have with that person – a like, a chat, etc.
'Fast Dating' has made many women and men tired of not feeling special," says Appetence founder Camilla Forsell.
"The conversations have become monotonous and similar, and having a 'Match' is no longer as exciting as the first few times," Forsell continues, adding that she wants people to "seduce" one another using just "their way with words." Hmmm.
When you first start conversing with your match, your profile photo appears entirely covered by a pattern.
As you chat with your match you have the opportunity to like the messages — or "encounters" — they send you.