Engaging and dating reltionship at adolescence
Understanding why people text their partners is a first step to considering its role in healthy relationship development.
Evidence suggests that satisfaction with how people use their phones within the relationship and relationship satisfaction itself are related (Miller-Ott, Kelly, & Duran, 2012). Conversing with someone in person; seeing their expressions, their gestures, hearing the tone of their voice, makes a world of difference.These relations are complex, as men who text to express affection tend to have partners who feel more attached to them. Using technology to connect in romantic relationships: Effects on attachment, relationship satisfaction, and stability in emerging adults. It's quick and easy, and I can still do other things while I wait for confirmation.For both men and women, the more they use texting to hurt a partner (inciting jealousy, expressing anger, etc.) the less attached their romantic partner. However, I have seen texting become a hindrance in my romantic affairs in several ways.The more texts people receive, the more they feel obligated to text back, creating a cycle of mobile relationship maintenance (Hall & Baym, 2012).This can be a healthy pattern if it creates a balanced sense of connection and dependence, but if instead individuals begin to feel an overdependence, such that the texting is preventing them from other activities—like attending to other relationships; meeting academic or career responsibilities, —the outcome is dissatisfaction (Hall & Baym, 2012). Without our non-verbal signals, messages can be misinterpreted or misconstrued, leading to uncertainty and anxiety.