Tell your ex husband you dating
Well, you could get back with your ex if you’d want to *not advisable though*, or you could shut your mind up and move on anyway.Nevertheless, it always feels good to know that you’re being missed by a once-special-someone, doesn’t it?They get you to change and turn into who they want you to be without you even knowing it.And you, my dear, are with not only a professional, but a master.A break up is bad enough, but dealing with the mixed signals from an ex after that?Well, that just complicates things even further, doesn’t it? Or one of you could still be in love with the other person.And it costs your entire existence as the human being you are right now.You will change, not on purpose, and not really knowingly, but that’s what the professional abusers do.
He is a broken bird who which you instinctively want to save, but my darling girl, you simply cannot. He will tell you he’s done with you at least a dozen times in those moments yet doesn't mean it, but for your own sake, I hope that you do.
I didn't recognize your face, or your name, but we had a few friends in common, and I definitely recognized the man standing next to you in your profile picture. I know what you’re thinking right now-crazy ex-wife is stalking your profile because you’re dating her ex-husband and she’s mad. I’m sure he has told you that he’s divorced (and some not-so-pretty “things” about me), and maybe even a little bit of his family history, and maybe even a few other quips of smaller things in his life that he has “overcome”, enough to make you feel badly for him, proud of him for where he is today, and even a little lucky for being with someone who has been through what he has. All of a sudden he will go from perfectly calm to a complete irrational hurricane in a matter of seconds-and it will be all your fault.
And I can’t express to you how much I apologize to you for it.
My life is amazing, it’s peaceful, and it’s complete. I am the woman you wrote that letter to, I met and fell in love with this person you were once married to. I wish I had read your letter or at least one like it and had been warned before hand. I trusted him with my heart and my kindness and allowed him into my life and he left me nearly destroyed. They never take account for any of their actions and continue to tear destruction where ever they go.
I have my family back, I am in a relationship that has shown me what true love actually is, and I even just bought a new car (one I was told I would never be “allowed” to buy). You get to have a future that doesn't include worrying if he’s really where he says he is. Someone new is in my shoes now and she is paying the price of making the same mistakes as I did. I didn`t spend years with him and I got out before the physical abuse started but I saw the emotional, verbal and financial abuse. I`m lucky I guess that I didn't endure it as many years as you but I have been told by my actual ex boyfriend`s ex wife that I endured worst behavior because he is making other`s pay for the anger at her standing up to his abuse and ending the marriage. Had I educated myself on the warning signs of abuse I may have been able to save myself and in many ways I did but it sure as Hell wasn`t easy. When you learn what exactly the characteristics of such a person is you have power.