Tips for dating a man going through a divorce
Most courts accept journals as evidence which can help your case dramatically.It can also help your memory if you have to take the stand in court.Do think of you first It's easy to cave to the emotions of the moment and agree to too much trying to assuage your guilt or ensure the kids have enough.But that strategy can back-fire and leave you destitute in the long-term.This is what you will be doing if you get involved with a man going through a divorce. Anyone going through a divorce has mixed emotions about their soon to be ex as they proceed. You have to be strong and let him know immediately that you do not want to get involved with a man that is not divorced yet. He will have to spend time with her to go over final things pertaining to the divorce.I dated a man for three long years while he went through his divorce. One minute they may even think of getting back together. If you wait and get involved with him, you will never walk away. It is better to break it off in the beginning before your feelings become a part of the already crazy emotions and feelings he has. I would still stick to my word and tell him no until he is divorced. You do not want to have a relationship with him and his ex wife. There is way too much there for you to be taken seriously as a part of his life right now. During those times it will be emotional for both of them. When men get divorced, they need to go out and sow their oats, especially if they're past 30.
"Also get copies of credit reports on both spouses; credit card statements for last few years showing spending patterns for each; copies of tax returns for last two to three years; pay stubs for last several months; detailed employment history for both spouses indicating benefits such as deferred compensation, healthcare in retirement or other retiree benefits.
"For contested split-ups photographic evidence, for example videotape, of hard assets, detailed records showing large and or unusual asset movements, withdrawals etc., need to be gathered too," he says.
Do you want to date him and his soon to be ex wife? It might be because he is still trying to work things out with his soon to be ex-wife.
The same holds true for men trying to hurt or demean their wives.
You might have held all the winning cards if she has a drinking problem or cheated on you, but you'll blow it if you come across as abusive verbally, emotionally or physically.